Depression After A Breakup
Posted: October 6, 2021
Breakups hurt; even when they’re “for the best.”
A breakup is a loss and it’s okay to grieve during this time. Some people get over their breakup fast, only to have their pain re-surface much later. Others take a long time to move forward from their breakup. They are stuck in a state of sadness or depression for quite a while. Wherever you lie, I need you to know that what you’re experiencing is a normal reaction to a breakup or divorce. The good news is, there are ways to improve your mood and feel better post-breakup. Today, I will share with you my advice for moving forward from a breakup or divorce.
Allow Yourself to Grieve the Loss of Your Relationship
Your relationship may not have been that great. Or, it was what some would call “toxic.” Regardless, it’s important to let yourself grieve after a breakup. Hold space for the emotions you’re feeling. Don’t try to push them away. That only makes things worse. Furthermore, have some self-compassion during this time. You may have a bad day from time to time. You know, the kind where you watch a sappy movie and eat ice cream or you lay in a bubble bath and cry. That’s okay. It’s normal. Allow yourself these moments and remember you don’t have to bounce back right away.
Give Others a Chance to Support You During Tough Times
It can be tempting to plaster a smile on your face and pretend that everything is fine. But again, this does not help. Your loved ones likely want to support you, so be open and honest with them about the ways they can go about doing so. If you don’t they may say or do things that aren’t helpful or stressful, and you certainly don’t need that right now.
Do Your Best to Maintain Self-Care Routines and Take Care of Your Health
It can be very tempting to lay in bed all day for days on end. But, while that is okay every once in a while, it’s not healthy to do so for days on end. During times of major transitions, it’s important to maintain routines and make healthy choices. Especially routines that are as stressful as a divorce or breakup. If you forgo these things, it can actually make you feel worse in the long run. Remember to get good rest, eat well, and exercise.
Make a List of Goals for Your Future
As hard as it may be to think about the future right now, it’s an important step in moving forward from divorce. Now, you have an opportunity to think about the things YOU want and the goals YOU want to achieve in your life. YOU don’t have to compromise or feel anxious. That’s pretty empowering when you think about it.
Consider Online Therapy in North Carolina
You may still be struggling to move forward from a relationship after some time. If so, then it may be time to consider treatment for depression. As a skilled online therapist, I have helped many people move forward after a breakup or divorce. Needing extra support during a challenging time is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, reaching out to a therapist shows your strength and how self-aware you are.
Begin Treatment for Depression in North Carolina
Treatment for depression can help you cope with the pain of a breakup. I can help equip you with the tools you need to move forward with greater self-confidence. I offer support from my North Carolina-based counseling practice. I take Blue Cross/Blue Shield, Cigna, and the North Carolina state health plan as insurance coverage. To begin treatment, follow these steps:
- Email me at [email protected]
- Start moving past your breakup!